“The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places.”
It is very difficult to maintain the quality of your well-being if you have people in your life who are potential sources for trouble. Individuals who possess a negative attitude, set of values, and pessimistic beliefs are proven to be disastrous. For example, when I was younger, and in the party phase of my life, I was surrounded by people who were suppressing my potential and constantly bringing me down, which is expected because we’re a group of broken people. In other words, positive outcomes cannot be expected from negative influences. Socrates once said, “To find yourself, think for yourself.” Effectively handling suppressive forces and potential sources of trouble is the first step towards overcoming adversity and relationships.
Be of Original Thought
When you think for yourself, you become more self-reliant, thus meaning you don’t need to depend on anyone. This is one of man’s greatest virtues – self-reliance. In a world where there is so much negativity and people you can’t trust or depend on, it becomes essentially vital to be self-reliant. This not only helps you go through life without being dragged down by others, but it also allows you to feel adventurous and excited about life. Those who are self-reliant are generally the happiest people because they do not need or depend on the satisfaction, approval, actions, or beliefs of others to cultivate that happiness. They do it themselves.
Today, you will find that many people all over the world don’t have much – if any – self-reliance. You’ll see people mentally underdeveloped, weak, and always depending on the help of others (such as therapists/psychologists) to help with their problems. If people begin to depend too much on someone else besides themselves to help them out of a difficult situation, it becomes an endless belief that this is what you need in order to get better or fix something. But when you practice a new belief of becoming self-reliant and thinking for yourself, you find yourself, just as Socrates said.
There are books for every problem, counselors, lawyers, therapists, and other methods of guidance available to people today to help them through their crisis – but what if there wasn’t any of that? How would these people deal with their issues? If people begin to think more for themselves – in a way, imagining that there was no one else to help them – then they will never need to surround themselves with others, which will result in literally them shaping your life for you. You can master your own destiny if you practice courage, initiative, and self-dependence.
Apply This in Life
I was troubled at one time, needed a life coach, and the life coach told me, “Everything you re learning is useless if you do not apply it.” How can you apply this in your own life? If you consider right now the people that you depend on to help you get through life, who are they? Perhaps it’s a sibling you call every time you feel sad, or your parents if you’re struggling financially. You might rely on a co-worker’s presence at work to get you through the day. Or, you meet with your group of friends each afternoon to do something immature. Whatever it is, ponder these people in your life for a moment.
Now think about this: how much of an impact do they have on your life? How much are they living your life for you? How much do they influence your decisions?
When you make the realization that you are extremely reliant on the presence of these people in your life, you can begin to understand the things you need to do to become more independent. Of course, this doesn’t mean you need to wipe out people from your life completely! It simply means you need to trust in yourself more instead of relying on other people’s judgments.
Not only does this new concept help tremendously when the need arises to be more decisive and independent, but it also increases your level of maturity significantly. You will no longer be hesitant and unsure every day. You will be more confident, genuine, and decisive throughout life – and these three qualities can help you free yourself from constraints that are pinning you down from progress and success.
Once you discover your self-reliance, you’ll wonder how you ever got by without it.