Billy Crystal said, “What’s so fascinating and frustrating and great about life is that you’re constantly starting over, all the time, and I love that.” When trying to make progress in life, I have noticed, is that I am constantly starting over. Recovering from a traumatic brain injury, for me, means to everyday put in effort to be better than I was the day before. With that said, I am always in competition with myself, evaluating what I can do better, and seeking blind spots in my nature. Joseph Campbell said, “Joseph Campbell said, “The shadow is to say, the blind spot in your nature. It’s that which you won’t look at about yourself.” My blind spot is a void, this never ending black hole in my heart and in my gut that I once drowned out with alcohol, but since I quit drinking, I filled it with making progress. With that said, I am sharing why it is important to have a productive attitude, step out of your comfort zone, and embrace adversity.
Dalai Lama once mentioned, “When we meet real tragedy in life, we can react in two ways – either by losing hope and falling into self-destructive habits, or by using the challenge to find our inner strength.” No matter what happens, even if it is putting a lot of time and effort into a task only to start at the beginning again, it is how you choose to react that is important. Your attitude is the foundation of your existence and what determines the quality of your life. For example, if you try to help yourself, and demonstrate that you are worthy of the time and energy of others, people will help you. Many individuals like to see see the self-reliant and proactive spirit in others and this type of attitude attracts constructive personalities. Wade Boggs said, “A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events and outcomes. It is a catalyst and it sparks extraordinary results.” When you become proactive and create possibilities for yourself you will see many doors open up and the sky will be the limit. Additionally, starting over often involves, disarray, confusion, and growing pains.
Adam Braun said, “True self-discovery begins where your comfort zone ends.” It is impossible to make progress and stay in the same place at the same time. Additionally, making breakthroughs often requires venturing through an unwanted and harsh path of adversity. A basic and common example would be the starving college student who left the comforts of living at home only to discover more of themselves and work tirelessly for a career breakthrough in the end. Neil Strauss once said, “Great things never came from comfort zones.” When work within your limitations of comfort you will never achieve anything outside of that. On the flip side, if you regularly challenge and acclimate yourself difficult tasks on a regular basis, then you will begin to live a lifestyle of progress and become resilient against adversity.
John Maxwell said, “Nothing breeds resilience like adversity and failure.” Adversity and failure that often results of it should be expected in the process of succeeding and building this resilience should be viewed as absolutely necessary for long term success. In fact, adversity has many benefits for those who can persevere through it. For example, a study conducted by Time magazine which noted a group of workers who lost their jobs, several times in a row, and instead of being discouraged, the study group was optimistic because they knew what they had to do to keep moving forward. In other words, to achieve your goals, you must embrace adversity and make failure a regular part of your life. If you are not failing, you are probably not moving forward.